Don't worry Jen it'll smooth out. I really didn't think that in my 30s but now, I am going to (2nd!) weddings of friends I knew at uni and am WhatsApping with my friend's 21 year old son about career stuff! Who would have guessed!
Some of my favourite people to have lunch with are in their 70s. But I have friends in almost every decade of their life. It’s nice.
I have noticed with sadness how little time I have for friends now, with an almost 5 year old, compared to what I used to have. Especially sad is the friends who had kids five years before me. Just as they might have been getting more flexibility, I get less. Up until my daughter was about 2-2.5 I could’ve met friends in the day with her, but more and more it feels too disrespectful to her and to my friend as I can’t give full attention to either, unless there are kids for my daughter to hang out with at the same time.
Thanks for writing this. I’m glad you’ve found your people again.
I absolutely LOVE this. Especially because at 39, I’m noticing the drift - my friends with kids are starting to become enmeshed in different lives and worlds. One thing I notice that delights me is that I’m making friends with people who have grown up kids (and time for a nice six hour lunch!) I think our romantic relationships are much more numerous and fluid than they were 50 years ago, because our lives change and fluctuate in a way that’s fairly new. And I think that’s true of our friendships too.
Couldn't agree more! It is kind of a weird concept really isn't it to think that you will always be friends with people who are, 'just like you'. Because, really age aside, is anyone?
Don't worry Jen it'll smooth out. I really didn't think that in my 30s but now, I am going to (2nd!) weddings of friends I knew at uni and am WhatsApping with my friend's 21 year old son about career stuff! Who would have guessed!
Some of my favourite people to have lunch with are in their 70s. But I have friends in almost every decade of their life. It’s nice.
I have noticed with sadness how little time I have for friends now, with an almost 5 year old, compared to what I used to have. Especially sad is the friends who had kids five years before me. Just as they might have been getting more flexibility, I get less. Up until my daughter was about 2-2.5 I could’ve met friends in the day with her, but more and more it feels too disrespectful to her and to my friend as I can’t give full attention to either, unless there are kids for my daughter to hang out with at the same time.
Thanks for writing this. I’m glad you’ve found your people again.
I absolutely LOVE this. Especially because at 39, I’m noticing the drift - my friends with kids are starting to become enmeshed in different lives and worlds. One thing I notice that delights me is that I’m making friends with people who have grown up kids (and time for a nice six hour lunch!) I think our romantic relationships are much more numerous and fluid than they were 50 years ago, because our lives change and fluctuate in a way that’s fairly new. And I think that’s true of our friendships too.
Couldn't agree more! It is kind of a weird concept really isn't it to think that you will always be friends with people who are, 'just like you'. Because, really age aside, is anyone?
I love this so much! I really appreciate my older and younger friendships and it’s lush to read about the impact yours have had in your life too ♥️
Love this! Totally agree - I have friends older and younger (with big age gaps too) and for me it makes life much more interesting and rich.
Thanks Jenny – so agree. Not everyone is at the same stage of life at the same time so it makes sense and life some much more fun! xx